Hey Homeschool Mommas,
I know you sometimes experience homeschool burnout and you don’t feel like you can continue. Your kids drive you crazy and you can’t imagine yet another full day with them. Or maybe you have some serious sibling rivalry that turns your house into a war zone.
You might look at your packed calendar, your busy schedule, and your piles of work to do and not know where to begin. This homeschool job is certainly overwhelming. But always remember that it’s a blessed life.
The grass is not necessarily greener on the other side of the fence. While the school bus passing by looks blissful as you think about some quiet time to yourself, know that there are many things that you are simply not missing.
Ignorance is not bliss and it’s time to discuss the things I’m thankful that I don’t have to experience.
What do I miss by homeschooling my kids?
- Panicking during the frantic morning rush of trying to make it to school on time
- Sitting in the pickup line after school and waiting, waiting, with fussy toddlers in the backseat
- Realizing that a backpack has gone missing when school begins in 10 minutes
- Forgetting to sign all of the permission slips and other forms sent home by the school
- Losing shoes in the mad push to get all the kids in the car
- Arguing over school outfits
- Realizing that the laundry is behind and there are no clean school outfits for that day
- Putting my kids on a bus with someone I don’t know and praying that they remember their stop
- Sitting in parent teacher conferences
- Having to confront the principal with a concern
- Approaching the teacher with a problem about my child
- Going to school meetings and school functions
- Getting that phone call that I forgot to sign paperwork
- Forgetting to send my child with their lunch
- Worrying that my child will not eat the cafeteria food and then be hungry all day
- Picking up said starving child and listening to their meltdown on the way home
- Hearing that my child has a negative cafeteria balance and skipped lunch
- Getting the call that my child is sick at school and needs me
- Hearing that my child was bullied by another child
- Worrying that a teacher will miss the next time my child is hurt
- Staying up late to help finish a mandatory project before a deadline
- Thinking that many of the projects are wastes of time anyway
- Not having to sign opt out forms for programs that I personally do not support
- Getting to chaperone a herd of loud and crazy kids on class field trips
- Dealing with the PTA drama
- Waiting to see if my child gets the “good” teacher for a particular grade
- Handling the disappointment that my child did not get the teacher we had hoped for
- Having to navigate the mama drama of the other classroom moms
- Trying to top the last child’s birthday cupcakes brought to class
- Hearing how the other mom’s kids are wonderful, gifted, brilliant, and talented
- Worrying that my child in no way measures up to theirs
- Stressing over the many tests and assessments
- Feeling that the curricula, homework, and projects are not age appropriate
- Feeling upset because these assignments cause my child to become stressed
- Trying to complete hours of homework after my child sat in school all day long
- Scheduling all of our family vacations and other plans around a rigid school calendar
- Remembering to take a doctor’s note or other excuse for all absences
- Feeling the pressure to conform to the school’s standards
- Believing that my child is pushed too hard all to meet standards
- Feeling that my child is not receiving adequate help because the student to teacher ratio is 24/1
- Seeing my child’s self esteem crumble because he is held to unachievable standards
- Worrying that my child is held back because he must move at the class’s pace
- Wishing that my child could follow his interests and choose what to study
- Knowing that my child is bored because he has already mastered the material being taught
- Seeing the beautiful day and knowing that my child will only feel the sunlight for 30 minutes
- Watching the rain fall and knowing that we can’t snuggle together and read wonderful books
- Sleeping in
- Having a movie day
- Watching my kids learn
- Being able to encourage them all throughout the day
Now, don’t hear that I’m bashing public school, private school, or the dedicated teachers. I’m not.
I’m just telling you the things that you’re not missing.
When you’re having a difficult homeschool day, you think that something, anything, has to be better than the job that you are currently doing. Know that there are difficult days for public school parents as well. There are terrible days for those teachers and those students.
No matter what educational choice you are embracing in this season of life, know that each has unique challenges. Don’t waste your time wishing for something else or envying what you think you’re missing. Ignorance is not bliss; it’s important to know that there are things about public school life that you would find challenging, disheartening, and tiring.
Lisa Marie @ The Canadian Homeschooler
Karen @ My Harbor Lights
Jen @ Happy Little Homemaker
Joanie @ Simple Living Mama
Lisa @ Home to 4 Kiddos
Amy @ Counting Change… Again